75 Questions to Ask About Feelings

We all have feelings, but understanding them can sometimes be difficult. If we don’t understand our feelings better, it can be difficult to make sense of them and take action.

That’s why it is important to ask questions about your feelings so you can gain clarity and insight. Here is a list to help you explore and understand your feelings.


  1. What emotion do I feel most frequently?
  2. How do I typically react when I’m feeling stressed?
  3. What situations make me feel most at peace?
  4. Which of my past experiences has shaped my emotional responses the most?
  5. In moments of intense emotion, what helps me regain balance?
  6. Can I identify what usually triggers my feelings of happiness?
  7. What patterns can I see in my emotional responses to daily events?
  8. How do my emotions influence my decisions?
  9. What feelings am I most comfortable expressing?
  10. Are there emotions that I find difficult to acknowledge or show?
  11. How does my mood shift throughout the day?
  12. What strategies do I use to cope with negative emotions?
  13. Which emotions do I wish I had more control over?
  14. How do I process and work through complex feelings?
  15. In what ways do I allow myself to feel and express gratitude?

Emotional Intimacy

  1. What makes you feel loved and appreciated?
  2. Can you describe a moment when you felt exceptionally connected to me?
  3. How do you prefer to express affection?
  4. What fears or insecurities do you face in our relationship?
  5. Are there things I do that make you feel unheard or dismissed?
  6. How can we improve our communication during emotional moments?
  7. What memories with me evoke strong emotions for you?
  8. In what situations do you feel most vulnerable with me?
  9. How do you think we handle conflict and intense emotions as a couple?
  10. What are your emotional needs that you feel are unmet?
  11. How has our relationship changed the way you think about emotions?
  12. What do you need from me when you’re feeling down?
  13. Do you feel comfortable sharing your deepest worries with me?
  14. How can I be more emotionally supportive in your daily life?
  15. What gestures or words make you feel truly seen and heard?

Friend Support

  1. How can I be there for you when you’re feeling low?
  2. What way of listening helps you feel most understood?
  3. Do you prefer space or company when processing difficult emotions?
  4. Are there specific actions that uplift you during tough times?
  5. Have recent events affected your emotional well-being in any way?
  6. What challenges are you currently facing that might be overwhelming you?
  7. Can you share something that’s been weighing on your heart?
  8. How do you generally cope with feelings of sadness or frustration?
  9. Is there a way I can help lighten your emotional load?
  10. Do you find certain times of the year harder emotionally than others?
  11. What personal victories would you like to celebrate and acknowledge?
  12. Have you discovered any new feelings or emotions lately that you’re exploring?
  13. Is there a particular issue causing you stress that you want to talk about?
  14. How do you feel your emotional health is at the moment?
  15. What does emotional support look like to you from a friend?

Children’s Emotions

  1. What things make you feel really happy?
  2. Can you tell me about something that made you sad today?
  3. What do you do when you feel angry or upset?
  4. Are there times when you feel scared or worried?
  5. How do you like to be comforted when you’re feeling bad?
  6. What makes you feel safe and secure?
  7. Can you think of a time when you felt proud of yourself?
  8. Who is someone you feel you can talk to about anything?
  9. How does it feel inside when something good happens?
  10. Do you know what it means to feel jealous, and have you felt it before?
  11. What words do you use to describe your feelings?
  12. What can we do to help you feel better when you’re having a hard time?
  13. How does your body feel when you have different emotions?
  14. What are some things that make you feel excited or nervous?
  15. Can you tell me about a time when your feelings got hurt?

Professional Relationships

  1. How do you prefer to receive feedback at work?
  2. What emotions arise for you during team projects?
  3. How do you manage stress in a professional environment?
  4. What kind of support do you value most from your colleagues?
  5. Can you describe how you feel about our current work dynamic?
  6. What motivates you to perform your best at work?
  7. Are there aspects of our work culture that impact your emotional well-being?
  8. During conflicts at work, how do you process your emotions?
  9. What feelings come up for you during periods of change or uncertainty at work?
  10. How does achieving work goals influence your emotions?
  11. In what ways do you feel recognized and appreciated professionally?
  12. How do you balance your emotional needs with professional demands?
  13. How do work-related successes and failures affect you emotionally?
  14. Does your work environment allow you to express concerns or frustrations?
  15. What would your ideal emotionally supportive workplace look like?

Frequently Asked Questions

How can I better understand my feelings?

Understanding your feelings can often be challenging. Reflecting on the reasons behind your emotions and identifying ways to improve your mood are key steps in this journey.

If it feels overwhelming, consider speaking with a therapist or counselor, who can provide tools and guidance to help you navigate and understand your feelings.

Is it possible to control your feelings?

The debate of whether we can control our feelings is ongoing. While our initial emotional responses may be automatic, choosing how to handle those feelings is within our power.

For instance, faced with an insult, you can opt for retaliation or kindness. When dealing with adversity, dwelling in sorrow or seeking the positive is your choice.

Ultimately, how we manage our emotional reactions shapes the life we choose to lead.

Final Thoughts

Understanding our own emotions takes practice and patience, but ultimately brings us closer to true happiness and fulfillment in life by helping us take appropriate action based on an informed decision-making process, rather than acting impulsively out of frustration or confusion about our own feelings.

By asking questions like those outlined above, we can gain clarity about our thoughts and experiences, leading us to greater peace of mind and contentment in life overall.

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Jessa Claire is a registered healthcare provider. Music lover. Daydreamer. Thalassophile. Foodie. A hardworking Capricorn. Most days, an incurable empath. An old soul. Down-to-earth. Vibrant. When she's not writing, she can be seen relaxing with headphones on or engrossed in her favorite fan fiction book.