44 Questions to Ask Your Wedding Officiant

Planning a wedding is a big undertaking, and there are many details to consider. One of the most important decisions you’ll have to make is who will officiate your ceremony. You want to make sure you choose someone who will make the ceremony special and memorable.

To help you with this, we’ve put together a list of questions you should ask your wedding officiant. With these questions, you can get to know your officiant better and make sure he or she is the right person for your big day.

44 Questions you should ask any potential wedding officiant before you make your final decision:

  1. What’s your name?
  2. What are your qualifications?
  3. Have you officiated a friend’s or family member’s wedding before?
  4. How long have you been officiating weddings?
  5. What’s your style as a wedding officiant?
  6. Do you have sample ceremonies I can look at?
  7. Are you comfortable incorporating religious traditions or customs into the ceremony?
  8. Can we write our own vows?
  9. What are your views on premarital counseling?
  10. When do we need to book your services?
  11. Do you have a backup officiant for emergencies?
  12. Have you officiated a same-sex marriage ceremony before?
  13. How far in advance should we book you?
  14. Will you meet with us beforehand?
  15. What should we discuss at our meeting?
  16. How long will the ceremony last?
  17. Can we customize our ceremony?
  18. What are your credentials?
  19. Do you have any specialties or know anything about specific religious ceremonies?
  20. What process do you go through when writing a ceremony?
  21. What happens if you get sick or can’t make it to the ceremony?
  22. Can we see a copy of the ceremony in advance?
  23. Do you have a degree in theology or another related field?
  24. Can you perform the ceremony on the day and time of my wedding?
  25. Can we send you a list of people who will be participating in the ceremony (e.g., readers, musicians, etc.) so you can coordinate with them in advance?
  26. Can you give us references from other couples for whom you’ve officiated?
  27. Are you ordained?
  28. What’s your religious affiliation (if any)?
  29. Are you a member of a professional organization?
  30. How did you get into officiating weddings?
  31. What do you like best about officiating weddings?
  32. Do you have any funny or memorable stories from weddings you’ve officiated?
  33. Do you have any restrictions on decorating or setting up the altar or podium area?
  34. How involved will you be during the wedding rehearsal?
  35. Will you sign the marriage certificate after the ceremony?
  36. Do you offer any discounts?
  37. What are your cancelation policies?
  38. If we’re staying out of town, are you willing to travel?
  39. Do you charge for travel expenses?
  40. Do you require a deposit?
  41. How much do you charge for your services?
  42. What forms of payment do you accept?
  43. When is the final payment due?
  44. Is there anything else I should know about you or your services?

Frequently Asked Questions

What does a wedding officiant do?

A wedding officiant is a person who performs a wedding ceremony. This can be a minister, priest, rabbi, another religious person, or a friend or family member of the couple getting married. They perform the ceremony and lead the guests in prayer or other rituals. Often they also help plan the ceremony and make sure that everything goes smoothly on the day of the wedding.

How long is a wedding officiant speech?

A wedding speech is usually about 5-15 minutes long. However, there’s no set rule and it can be shorter or longer depending on how the wedding officiant feels comfortable. The most important thing is that the speech expresses the couple’s love story and their commitment to each other.


These are just a few examples of questions you should ask your potential wedding officiant. Remember that this person will be responsible for helping to make your big day. Therefore, you must choose someone you feel comfortable with and who shares your vision for the wedding ceremony. Take your time making this decision and don’t hesitate to ask as many questions as you need to feel confident in your choice.

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